Comments on: LinkedIn Tip – Mom Was Right, Manners Matter

By: Susan Walls

Susan Walls — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 05:17:01 +0000

Thanks for the sharing this again via Twitter. It’s a great reminder! When I receive invitations that aren’t personalized, I will accept them if I know who the person is, and will send a note reminding them that they might get better results if they personalize the invitation. If I don’t know/remember the person, I ask them why it would be a good idea to connect. Not sure why folks don’t automatically personalize – perhaps it’s all the relationship short-hand we use these days!

Susan
http://www.linkedin.com/in/susanwalls

By: Nicolette Toussaint

Nicolette Toussaint — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 21:21:15 +0000

I couldn’t agree more. I think you’re “completely savvy” with this advice, Irene.

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[...] LinkedIn Tip – Mom Was Right, Manners Matter by Irene Koehler: Personalize your LinkedIn invites (and any other invite or communication, for that matter). No one wants to receive an invite that says, “I’d like to add you to my network.” That really translates to, “I didn’t want to take 30 seconds to say something personal,” or “I don’t remember where we met, but I want more contacts.” Are either of those the messages you want to send? Koehler’s article gives tips, including sample phrases, to craft personal but non-cheesy messages. [...]

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By: Mary McManus

Mary McManus — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 01:28:04 +0000

Your point is so well taken. I received an invitation from LinkedIn and did not recognize the person’s face or the name. It was the generic invitation. When I responded with I don’t know this person, the person followed up with an email identifying herself and where she knew me from and said she was having trouble connecting with me on linked in…we had a good laugh over it since we had met on another forum but until we straightened it out, it was perplexing and frustrating for both of us.

By: Napoleon B (@P0_P0)

Napoleon B (@P0_P0) — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 21:33:28 +0000

Good points Irene.

I got an invitation from a co-worker to connect that had me scratching my head. The wording was changed from the standard LinkedIn invitation message, so I knew he changed it. But it was changed in such a way that I thought it actually written by a robot. I’ve known this person for almost 19 years, so the impersonal invitation was a sort of shock. I’m going to ask him about it when I see him.

To me, personalization helps. Show me the thing that links us and I’ll add you to my network.

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[...] LinkedIn Tip – Mom was Right, Manners Matter | Almost Savvy "Let?s give a quick shout-out to Mom, who taught us many important lessons. Even though she may have exaggerated a bit when she said we?d ruin our eyes if we held them cross-eyed for. You're invited too long and that sitting too close to the TV would rot our brains, she was right about a lot. Remembering the value of using good manners and being respectful of others were two of the lessons which have stood the test of time." Nice one Irene! (tags: linkedin socialnetwork irenekoehler) [...]

By: Trish McDermott

Trish McDermott — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 20:17:05 +0000

Very good article, Irene. I’ve found that the “customized” invitation works best, especially when I haven’t worked with some of my contacts for years.

I especially like the “Bob, this is your wife.” example. Funny!

By: Warren Whitlock

Warren Whitlock — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 11:12:50 +0000

Social media allows us to be more of the real person we are.

It’s wonderful that we don’t have to use business language or pretend we’re a different person part of the day.

I say “If you can tell the difference between work and play, you aren’t doing one of them right”

Just mind your manners, do what Mom taught you or you learned in Kindergarten and you’ll be fine

By: admin

admin — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 01:28:45 +0000

Excellent points, Leslie. It is a matter of manners and practicality. We need to look at it from the point of view of the recipient, how will it appear to them?