Comments on: Just Because We’re Social Networking “Friends” Doesn’t Mean I’ll Go To 3rd Base With You

By: Noel

Noel — Thu, 07 Jul 2011 09:00:16 +0000

With so many messages like that I receive online, I am discouraged to reply to people I don’t know. I feel like talking to a machine with a script which is very disappointing. These kind of selling techniques are making a bad image to the company who uses them. I agree with Irene, I think they should at least make us feel they really want to talk and listen to us.

By: Rod Rodriguez

Rod Rodriguez — Thu, 07 Jul 2011 04:19:15 +0000

This is definitely something I can relate with, Irene. The worst part is, they initiate by sending me a message on facebook with a pretty face on the profile picture. Who can turn down a pretty face? Well, after being subjected to countless ‘Hi Rod! Can we be friends?’ messages, it’s become a lot easier for me to tell which is advertising crap and which is real. In fact, this is nothing new. How many times have you watched a TV show only to realize it’s nothing but a glorified infomercial? Everyone is selling something these days, at the expense of those who are not buying. I agree with Amber Cleveland in that the rotten tomatoes make it hard to find the ripe ones.

By: Kay Ballard

Kay Ballard — Mon, 21 Mar 2011 21:20:47 +0000

Irene, I think you are exactly right–they somehow don’t understand.

Twitter can be perplexing to a newbie–so many of them purchase training from people who teach them “clever” tactics like sending DM’s to people who follow them back.

Like you, I am inclined to unfollow anyone who does this. However, sometimes I relent, because the person behind the errant behavior seems otherwise cool or interesting–just mistakenly engaging in a practice that threatens the new relationship at its very inception.

By: Irene Koehler

Irene Koehler — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 15:11:09 +0000

For you, Kate, anything.

By: Kate Carruthers

Kate Carruthers — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 11:29:38 +0000

but gimme a little kiss anyway

By: Jeanne Dininni

Jeanne Dininni — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 22:32:36 +0000

Thanks so much, Irene. I’m hopeful that your post will accomplish that. If it changes even one person’s mind, that will be a great accomplishment. But, even if it doesn’t, at least you will have helped many who might potentially be taken advantage of by these individuals to understand why they needn’t allow that.

Karen Swim is also one of my very favorite people! Thought you’d like to know that she shared your post.

By: Irene Koehler

Irene Koehler — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 22:48:40 +0000

Unfortunately, you are right, Ron. As long as these practices net results (however small the rate of conversion), they will continue.

By: Irene Koehler

Irene Koehler — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 22:38:25 +0000

Beautifully said, Jeanne. I wish I could say that I was optimistic that my post might change someone’s mind, but you never know. If it helps lead someone to reconsider their approach, then I’m happy.

I’m also happy that Karen shared the post with her community. I happen to be a big Karen Swim fan from way back!

By: Ron Amundson

Ron Amundson — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 19:19:27 +0000

Ok, so drive by sales wont happen with you, me, or likely the commentors here on this blog. Otoh drive by sales do occur, and they do so at a statistically significant number to make it worthwhile to do so.

In effect drive by folks are casting a wide net, and looking for those susceptible to drive by sales. For example, if a person is susceptible to a drive by sale from salesperson A… then if salesperson A puts on a mask to be salesperson C,D,E, and F with different products, they will likely have sales as well. Get rick quick schemes seem to propagate in the same fashion.

If I put the shoe on the other foot though… just as the scammers filter for marks, we filter for folks we can trust often for mutual benefit. In a lot of ways, perhaps we are not all that different.

By: Irene Koehler

Irene Koehler — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 18:21:30 +0000

Amen, Amber! Too far, too fast. Either they lack a true understanding of how to effectively connect with others or they don’t care because it is all a numbers game to them.